Men Who Get It

By Candace Moody

I love it that the Generation W conference will feature a panel on – and of – “Men Who Get It.”  Everyone needs at least oneMan Who Gets It in her life. Some of us are lucky enough to be married to him. Some of us are spoiled by the fact the Dad was the one who got it, making it hard to find someone who can fill his shoes. Others find her Man Who Gets It in a friend or coworker. If you’re not sure whether you have a Man Who Gets It in your life, here’s a checklist to help you decide.

  • He always tells you that you look great, no matter how little sleep you got last night. He knows that giving you confidence is the best way to make you glow. If you think you’re beautiful, you are beautiful.
  • He never automatically assumes you did something wrong when a piece of equipment doesn’t work. He asks what’s wrong with it instead of what’s wrong with you.
  • He doesn’t assume that housework is women’s work. He sees a mess and he pitches in without comment and without asking for praise when he’s done.
  • He doesn’t talk down to you about things he knows more about than you do. He explains combustion engines or the wildcat offense with the same patience and respect he would give to his 12-year-old son or nephew.
  • He knows how to maintain eye contact when you’re talking about something important and has the sense to look away when you’re starting to cry like a girl. Not that there’s anything wrong with that.

A Man Who Gets It isn’t threatened by your education, your friends or your recent promotion. In fact, the more fabulous you are, the more fabulous it makes him – look who she picks to hang around with (or date or marry or have a baby with.) He doesn’t expect you to be a reflection of him or agree with him all the time. He’s okay with the fact that you’re a complete human being with a different set of values, tastes and opinions and a different way of looking at life. In fact, he wouldn’t have it any other way.

Let’s hear it for the guys in our life that love us, respect us and actually like us. If you’ve got one, let him know how special he is.

Let me know, too. If you know a Man Who Gets It, leave a comment and share your story on the Gen W blog.


candace1-150x150About the Author
Candace Moody is a writer and workforce professional based in Jacksonville, Florida. Her background includes over 15 years of experience in Human Resources, training, recruiting, and assessment, and she is frequently quoted in the Jacksonville media on labor market issues. She was awarded an M.B.A. from Jacksonville University in 2001. Her column and features have appeared in the (Jacksonville) Florida Times-Union, the Atlanta Journal Constitution and 904 Magazine.